This question comes from Amy:
Amy asks:
How do I get my kids' teachers to listen to me? I am a young mom and have a child in 1st and one in K and I have concerns but the teachers just push them aside and talk down to me. I think it is because of my age (I had my lids at 16 and 17). How can I get them to listen to me and not treat me like a kid??
GREAT QUESTION AMY!!!!
First if it is because of your age than what they are doing is wrong!! I sometimes find that I am over sensitive sometimes and think people hate me or ignore me when they don't and it is just that their personality is a bit edgy. Either way of they are not listening to your concerns that is not only morally wrong but could also harm your children and be a violation of school policies.
The first thing you need to know and remember is (and this may sound mean but it is not) the teachers work for you! You are the one paying their paycheck so in essence you are their boss! They have a responsibility to listen to your concerns! I would first write a note and if no response send and email and then call! Most schools now have a 24 hour policy (if they do not respond in 24 hours or whatever time frame they give them, excluding weekend and holidays, they are in violation of school policy) If you get a I will get back to you and still nothing you are in your right to call the school guidance counciler or principal for a meeting.
I say these in extreme circumstances but I find just being open and comfortable with the teacher opens doors much quicker! It sounds like you may have some insecurities when it comes to the teachers. I know that a lot of time when our kids first go to school it is intimidating for us too but remember you are the mom, the boss, and the one in control!! Stay strong, confident, and in control and you will do great! It is obvious you are a loving mother who wants the best for your babies and they will get that if you just stick to your guns :)
What do you all think... Any other suggestions for Amy... Let us know!
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I send a note, and then if they don't respond to my note, I go to their classroom after school. We have a really small school so everyone usually listens, but I had this same problem last year when my kids were in EXACTLY the same grades yours are in now. But it didn't always work, then Luckily (if you can call it that) I had to meet with the principal and I addressed my concerns there. Went well.
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